"Just communicate!" "Set boundaries!" "Stop overthinking!" Cool. But HOW do I do that when my entire nervous system is screaming that I'm about to be abandoned?

The advice isn't wrong.

It's just painfully incomplete.

When you have an anxious attachment style and you're finally in a relationship, generic advice feels like being told to "just relax" while you're drowning.

They say: "Communicate your needs!" Your brain says, "If I say what I need, I'll be too much and they'll leave."

They say: "Set boundaries!"Your brain says, "Boundaries push people away. Just say yes and keep the peace."

They say: "Stop overthinking!"Your brain says, continues to replay the conversation 47 times at 2 am.

You're not failing at the advice.

The advice is failing YOU.

Because it doesn't address the hidden identity story running underneath—the one that says:

"I have to earn love by being easy, giving, and perfect. If I'm not, they'll leave like everyone else."

That identity? She's not going anywhere just because you took some deep breaths and journaled about boundaries.

She needs to be seen, understood, and shifted.

I know because I lived this.

I read every attachment book. I did the therapy. I knew all the "right" answers.

And I was STILL shrinking myself, swallowing my needs, and drowning in anxiety every time he seemed distant.

The shift happened when I stopped trying to manage my anxious behaviours and started shifting my anxious IDENTITY.

Now I help high-performing women, just like you, do the same.

Not with more generic advice.

With a proven methodology that shifts the hidden story beneath the patterns, so they can finally feel secure in love without performing for it.

If you're done white-knuckling your way through a relationship while pretending you're fine

Send me a message and let's talk about what actually works for you!