Tired of Being Told You’re ‘Too Needy’? Here’s What You Need to Know NOW Before Your Next Date…

She’s had enough.

Enough of hoping that this time it will be different. Enough of endlessly scrolling through profiles, feeling like she’s just not quite enough, yet somehow, still too needy… too much… or so she’s been told.

She’s emotionally drained.

Tired of giving her heart to people who don’t value it. And part of her wonders: Is it even worth it anymore?

She’s been told:

"You’re too clingy."

"You’re too emotional and needy."

"You need to stop being a drama queen."

And little by little, those words start to sink in. They chip away at her sense of self-worth, quietly eroding her confidence.

She begins to internalise: Maybe I am too needy. Maybe I’m asking for too much. Maybe I am best just staying quiet.

And so she shrinks. She shrinks into fear, into negative self-talk, into pain silently suffering, feeling unworthy.

And in that space, she settles. She settles for people who don’t meet her needs, for relationships that don’t nurture her.

Because at least then, she feels kind of accepted.

And here she slips into the powerless cycle she’s been experiencing for far too long…can you resonate?

But here’s the truth:

 Needing love doesn’t make you needy. It makes you human.

Your desire for connection is wired into your very being. It’s not a flaw. It’s biology. It’s life.

The real issue is NOT that you want love.

The real issue is that you’ve been made to feel like wanting love is something to hide, suppress, or apologise for by people who were never capable of meeting your needs.

And worse, it’s reinforced a core wound: the belief that you’re unlovable.

That little girl inside of you, the one who craves deep love and acceptance feels rejected and alone all over again

and she needs care and attention so she’s not driving the show AKA your love life!

So here’s what I want you to know:

 You don’t need to shut down your need for love to be “strong.”

 Ideally, you want to meet your own emotional needs and connect with the little girl in you who is crying out to be seen, heard, and loved without relying on others to do it for you.

When you do this, you will no longer shrink or apologise for your ‘neediness’ AKA anxiety, and you will never settle for emotionally unavailable partners who can’t hold your emotions because you have learned how to hold your own.

 You don’t need to settle for less just because you’re tired of waiting.

 Stay loyal to your standards.

If you want someone to meet you in love, it’s time to meet yourself first. Create the love you deserve and honour your worth as you would expect your future partner to do- you lead and set the standards!

 You can have the love you crave, without shrinking yourself or pretending to be someone you’re not.

You are lovable, just as you are. The more you connect with this truth, the more you connect with your feelings and take ownership of them by meeting your needs, and the more others will see it too and know that’s the standard to treat you. (this is psychologically backed).

And when you stop pretending to be anything other than yourself, the right love will find you, exactly where you are.

You are not "too needy." You are not "asking for too much." You are simply learning to choose love that meets you where you are.

That love? That’s you.

And that? That’s where your power lies. You are so powerful in your softness and I can’t wait for you to see it!

 Drop a comment if you needed to hear this today and if this helped you.

And if you know another woman who could use these words, feel free to share. Let’s rewrite this narrative together!