Why You Don’t Trust Your Gut Anymore (And How to Get It Back)

It’s not intuition you’ve lost. It’s safety.

There was a time when you did know. You felt things before they were said. You sensed shifts in tone, silence, energy, like a radar that kept you emotionally ahead.

And then something happened. Maybe it was a relationship. Maybe it was slow erosion—being told you’re too sensitive, too much, too intense.

Eventually, you stopped trusting what your body knew. You started asking others to name what you were already sensing. You started managing their reactions instead of honouring your truth. You started calling your gut “anxiety.”

Let me say it clearly:

You didn’t lose your intuition. You learned to override it to keep the peace.

Because when connection feels conditional, safety becomes about self-abandonment.Your nervous system gets trained to betray your knowing… just to be chosen.

Here’s what that actually looks like:

• You rehearse before you speak, even with people you love.

• You look for signs you’re wrong even when your gut is screaming.

• You call your overfunctioning “being thoughtful.”

• You apologise for your feelings while you’re still having them.

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This isn’t indecision. This is what happens when your identity got built inside a system that punished your truth.

So what do we do?

Inside the Secure Identity Method, we don’t just rebuild trust in your gut. We rebuild the emotional safety your gut needs to speak clearly again.

Because if your body still associates truth with risk, then intuition will always sound like danger.

Here’s how we begin to bring her back:

🔹 1. Interrupt the Guilt Loop

Right now, you don’t just doubt your gut—you judge yourself for having it. We start by separating the voice of intuition from the voice of self-protection.

Try this in the moment:

“Am I sensing this… or managing their comfort?”

Naming that split is the first step toward reclaiming your internal leadership.

🔹 2. Anchor Your Knowing In the Body

Intuition isn’t just a vibe. It’s a somatic signal. Tight chest, fluttering stomach, throat tension—that’s information, not overthinking.

In the Secure Identity Method, we retrain your body to recognise those signals without shutting them down. You learn how to trust what you feel before your brain starts narrating over it.

🔹 3. Create a 24-Hour Boundary Pause

This is one of the fastest trust-repair tools we use.

Here’s how:

• Any time you feel triggered, pressured, or unsure, don’t respond immediately.

• Take 24 hours. Not to avoid. To regulate.

• Ask:

  “If I trusted myself fully, what would I say or do here?”

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The answer that drops in—that’s your truth. That’s your gut, not your fear.

Over time, that 24-hour pause becomes a new baseline. And eventually, you don’t need the pause anymore because trust is built.

Your intuition isn’t gone.

It’s just waiting for you to stop abandoning it.

And the moment you stop managing relationships like a PR campaign? You hear it again. Loud and clear.

And you move like the woman who doesn’t second-guess anymore.

If you’re ready to stop calling your knowing “anxiety” and start rebuilding a relationship with your truth,

DM me “GUT” or [book your Secure Identity Consult here].

We’ll get her back. And this time, you’ll listen.